My Life’s Mission Statement

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“If you can’t figure out your purpose, figure out your passion. For your passion will lead you right into your purpose.”

– Bishop T.D. Jakes

I was struggling to figure out what type of blog post I wanted to release this week. Essentially, I needed something quick and easy to write. I have one of the busiest weeks and it seems every day is accounted for before I leave town for the weekend, but I refuse to not release a blog and ruin my consistency streak. Holding myself accountable this year!

As I searched the internet for quick blog topics (major writer’s block), I came across a suggestion that stated to write about my mission statement. Granted, I do not own a business to have an official mission statement, but I believe that my blog site is a service to others. Let me explain…

Before I created my blog in April 2019, I had just suffered a horrible pregnancy loss the month before. I had a missed miscarriage and was given the option of waiting for the miscarriage to pass or having surgery to remove the fetus…ugh. Even now, it sounds so cold and breaks my heart, but I digress. I decided to do the surgery and what was supposed to be a 30-minute procedure turned into a 3-hour ordeal due to complications. Then during that time, I was in a toxic work environment where I was constantly singled out and made to walk on eggshells out of the fear of being terminated. Each passing day, it felt hard to get out of bed. I honestly didn’t see the point. It felt as if I had nothing to look forward to. I felt alone in my grief and pain. I felt SO ALONE. And to cope, I wrote about all the darkest emotions within my heart and soul. I ached.

The more I wrote (and cried), the lighter I felt. The pain and grief didn’t go away but it felt more bearable. Writing had become my therapy, my escape, and my salvation. I needed to write to heal. And as I began the healing journey while sharpening my writing skills, I felt a shift within myself. I wanted to evolve. I wanted the transformation to be intentional and with purpose. I thought to myself, “I can’t be the only one who feels like this, or has gone through this…” The trauma I had experienced left me feeling lonely. It left me wondering how many people were feeling alone, just like me. How many people are going through these experiences but are unable to voice it or lack the capability of being vulnerable with others out of fear of judgment or embarrassment? Why should anyone suffer alone? Spoiler alert: We shouldn’t! I wanted to help others by being open with my own experiences. My “why” became obvious like big, flashing neon letters.

If I can make one person, just one, feel less alone because they relate to my experiences, then I have done my job. I want people to feel they have found a friend in me. That my site is a safe space; a judgment-free zone. I want others to know that there is no shame in being vulnerable and that vulnerability does not equate weakness. For many people, there are skeletons in closets and demons being fought behind closed doors. I want to spread love and comradery. So here goes my official mission statement for not just my blog, but my life:

To provoke connectedness and healing for others by spreading kindness and authenticity through my writing.

Simple and straight to the point but packs a punch. Because in a nutshell, this is my desire for my blog. My why. And on those days that you feel like you can’t push yourself any further, I hope you read my blog posts and find comfort in the fact that you are not alone. I want you to read my stories and think, “If she can do it, so can I.” I want you to feel like you just cried your eyes out during worship or a therapy session. I hope my blog stirs those powerful emotions in you because healing is very unidirectional. There are no shortcuts. You must get through the pain to truly heal. You must sit in the darkness waiting for the glimmer of light, while carrying the faith that you are strong enough to survive such a transformation. And man, it’s been quite the transformation and I’m still not done yet.

It’s the space where you shift from surviving to thriving. It’s happiness. Isn’t that what we all want? And what if I can help you find that? How dope would that be?

So let me leave you with some parting thoughts:

Your feelings are valid.

You do matter.

There are people in your life that look forward to your presence, the sound of your voice.

You make someone’s life better just by simply existing.

We can all find comfort knowing that we feel alone together. So, I guess that means we are never truly alone, right?

Let’s hear some positive proclamations! What would be your mission statement for your life? Please let me know in the comments. Sending you all love ❤

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Like a lotus flower, I emerge from dark, murky waters to reveal my beauty. Feeling and healing on this journey of life; glowing and flowing. I have always loved writing, but it has taken me 29 trips around the sun before I had to confidence to share publicly. I hope my writing, which is near and dear to my heart, sparks light and love in all of you. Make yourself at home and enjoy the ride!

46 thoughts on “My Life’s Mission Statement”

  1. That certainly sounds like 2019 was a really terrible year. It also seems like we have a similar drive with wanting to help people, even if it’s just one person, to live a better life. For me, I just want to help people avoid going through the stuff I went through

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    1. You are spot on! If I can help someone else avoid all the pain and heartache I experienced, then I feel fulfilled. I know what it feels like to feel extremely alone and misunderstood. Would never want anyone else to feel this way. Thank you for reading and commenting!

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  3. I am sorry to hear that 2019 was a terrible year for you. I love that you started your blog to help people. I love reading your blog. Thank you for sharing.

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  5. I love this. It’s not a coincidence that I’ve read this post. I’m in tears( happy tears don’t worry!) thank you so much for these words, they have touched my soul and the depths of my heart. I’m also so sorry for your loss and how 2019 was a tough year for you. I’m so happy that you have found the courage. I salute you! Your blog really stirred up some emotions in me just as you said. Writing is magic. It makes us heal ourselves. Lots of love x Penny / whatdidshetype.com

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    1. It makes me so happy to read this! Thank you so much for your kind words. 2019 absolutely broke me but it was necessary to become the person I am today. And I completely agree! Writing equals healing ✨thank you for reading and commenting!

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  6. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. Sometimes as they say purpose is birthed from a place of pain. So glad you’re able to turn those dark moments of your life into life lessons and offer insight for others. Continue writing and shining your light. God bless you sis 💜

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    1. Thank you! I truly appreciate it. And yes, that sentence brings me comfort because it’s a great way to shift the perspective of feeling alone. Thank you for reading and commenting!

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    1. I’m so happy you gained something from it. Thank you so much for reading and commenting! Do you mind sending me the link to your site? I’m trying to access through WordPress but it won’t let me.

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  15. So sorry to hear what you went through in 2019. It’s horrible that after everything you then had to go through that at work as well! Hopefully someone reading your post can find comfort in knowing that others have been through similar and that they aren’t alone!

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    1. Yeah work was an added stressor for sure but it also taught me what I was not willing to tolerate in a workplace. I left that job around August 2019 and it was the best decision I ever made! Thank you for reading and commenting!

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  16. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss lovely, 2019 sounded a really hard year for you. I think a lot of people will find comfort in what you’ve written today and you being so honest. Thank you so much for sharing Xo

    Elle – ellegracedeveson.com

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  19. I love everything about this idea! I’ve been struggling to describe what my blog is about. I know on a simple level, but internally, it’s so much more than that. Maybe focusing on a mission statement is what I should do. I’m sorry that your blog was born from tragedy and loss in your life. I can’t imagine what you went through, but do have people in my life who have experienced similar losses. I’m so happy that found healing in expressing yourself and took it to the next level by connecting with others. Such a great message and an inspiration.

    ~ Cassie | letsgrowmom.com

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  20. I believe my mission in life is to help others all around the world. My heart feels full and content whenever I am able to help someone in need, whether it be financially, mentally, advise on life or just there to listen. I love you for life woman! ♥️ And as always GREAT blog!

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  22. I can’t explain, but this post meant a lot! I felt this so much in my spirit. I began blogging last year to get me through a difficult period and felt like I was alone. It’s so beautiful to see that you’re sharing your thoughts, journey + healing. Definitely following this blog! Love it!

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