My 31st birthday is this Saturday, January 30th and I cannot help but reflect on my past year as a 30-year-old.
When I first turned 30, I claimed it as my golden year because I reached 30 years of life on the 30th day of not only a new year, but a new decade as well. It was the closing of one decade in my life (my 20s) and the start of a new one. I was also about to embark on a new chapter, knowing that by the end of the year, I would be married. It all felt so significant and symbolic.
So, it only makes sense that I create a blog post like this to share with you all.
This past year did not turn out the way I expected. Honestly, it is the opposite of what I envisioned. But I have learned and grown so much in the past year that I must express gratitude. And when you read this, try to be present and intentional in understanding; you may have some realizations of your own.
Without further ado, here are my 30 self-reflections.
- It is okay to love someone from afar.
- Ultimately, life happens for me, not to me.
- Life is short. Eat the dessert.
- Whoa. I’m a married woman?! Amazing.
- I no longer want to feel guilty for saying no.
- He’s not kidding. I do have a body of a goddess.
- My trauma does not define me.
- It is not my responsibility to meet the expectations of others.
- I am no longer afraid of separating myself from anyone who disrupts my peace.
- I must do a solo travel trip soon!
- I am way too hard on myself.
- Not everything requires a reaction.
- Vulnerability will always equal strength.
- Stop apologizing for feeling so deeply.
- I never want to plan another event again.
- Progress over perfection. Stay consistent.
- I think I am ready to seek a therapist.
- Relationships do not fit one mold.
- My anxiety is not a crutch. I am stronger than that.
- I’m getting old for real because these knees…
- I am getting real good at voicing and honoring my boundaries.
- I still have a lot of anger and resentment within me to resolve.
- I control NOTHING and it drives me insane, but I am learning to accept it.
- Stepping out of my comfort zone does not get easier but it gets familiar.
- My presence, time, and energy are gifts that should be given wisely.
- My resilience is a God sent.
- I need to actively work on my level of patience.
- Amid madness, unintentionally, my faith became stronger.
- I have some amazing individuals in my life.
- I’m that bitch. Always have been, always will be.
What I experienced in the past year, the good and the bad, has been thought-provoking, uncomfortable, epiphanic, and transforming. And I must admit, I’m feeling bolder because of it. I am thankful for the lessons, even when I have a hard time accepting them. Because honestly, I don’t handle obstacles and inconveniences very well. But I am equally thankful for learning how to revisit and reevaluate the past experiences in my life.
This is how I learn and continue to grow.
I have no regrets. I am confident when I say all the lessons served its purpose. A year that felt infinite with them. So, as I welcome and celebrate a new year of life, I hope this post sparks something so fierce within you. May you feel inspired and hopeful. May you continue to discover yourself in a way that becomes a beacon of light for others. And may you always remember to love yourself freely and unapologetically.